Over the past two years, I began to realize (I will lose some of you here) that higher beings can communicate with us. A year ago, I began subscribing to a free newsletter that featured messages from what some call ascended masters, others see as angels and some believe to be spirit guides. I liked reading the newsletter before I had to go off and face this cruel world as it was always loving and positive.
In March, I had a huge falling out with some people, one who I loved like a sibling. It left me lost with so many unanswered questions: Why did this happen? What did I do wrong? Why can't I make them understand...you get the drift. I even wrote to the website of this newsletter(no details, just 3 questions). A man wrote back, saying he would see if the channel would answer. As this was months ago, I forgot about it, but go figure: I got a reply. Maybe it is bogus; maybe the Divine has told me some things I needed to hear, but I wanted to share it with you. I imagine there are a lot of us out there who see sudden breakdowns in our relationships. We want to fix them, but we find out that some things either cannot be repaired or they get renewed in their own time, not in ours. It has been a hard lesson for me.
I wish these folks all the best in life. When I am tempted to feel angry and misunderstood, I just remember that I need to let go--I have no control over others, only my bad self and my big mouth. So to whomever sent these words to me, I am truly grateful.
(The questions I sent)
How does one cope when people who you love cannot understand you? They attribute motives to your behavior that just aren't true and nothing you say or do can change their opinion? Why do people see what they want to see instead of seeing what is true?
Susan (Philadelphia, PA)
(The reply)
Truth is relative. We will tell you that truth is truth and universally so, but when you are referring to those who choose to see one thing and you are, for instance displaying another, there is obviously a communication breakdown. You can only create for you. You are responsible for you and your actions only. When you are acting from your love and your intuition, that is all that is necessary. You could simply expect something different from this other person, or you could just remember that what this other person does has nothing to do with you. Some relationships are simply not in your best interest. Some relationships you still have something to learn from. Choose what you want from this one and move towards resolution for you. Use your love as a barometer. Realize that the attachment to this relationship and what this person thinks could be just that, an attachment. Forgive yourself for that which you have created that does not give you joy and wish this other being well. Use your love; you know what to do. You cannot ever change another, you can only change you. Choose, for you already know what to do. We love you and remember you are love. You just have to be reminded from time to time...
Have a safe holiday, folks! Much love--CV
49 cruel utterances:
What would your priest think of this post? "Burn in hell, pagan!" I approve.
Sigh...those folks have given up on me. Your approval is noted and appreciated.
You know my views on this. Sounds like the divine has a preference for American English.
Sound very reasonable cv, being very skeptical of a great many things, I can honestly say that I can detect no subterfuge with their reply at least. It's good advice I think .
Oh, come on--tell me your views again. Don't be bashful like Grant always is. And how is that American English. The use of you?
John B: It's a free site, so there is no chance of getting fleeced. It is good advice.
That other reply was to SJ.
There is a lot of truth in it.
We can only be responsible for our selves.
Some one once sent me something about people who come into our lives. Basically it said that some people come in four lives for a short time to work out something in them and us, then they leave.
Others stay long while they grow and when they get to a certain point they are ready to move on.
Other are always there, no matter what and they watch and help us grow, these are few and far between.
I have an number of those in my life, which is really good. I have had many many of the other 2 and they are mostly gone.
It actually is good that they are gone.
I thought of writing something when I started typing this.
Now I don't know what to say.
I guess,I have too many questions of mine to ask to god.
Saw you on X Dell with the bashful reply. You should listen. It's great.
And the advice, wise, take it.
There is always only one you. You are unique. Relish that. Who wants people anyway? Do you need them? If so why?
Life is a game we play. We put on another hat whenever we are in touch with another person. If you have one friend who is a true friend you are the luckiest person alive.
Take care and always be true to yourself no matter what.
I could've told you all that stuff without claiming divine inspiration. Seems like good old fashioned human common sense to me.
*Lets out BIG sigh*
I felt like the response was written for me as well. It's the same as those who believe their own lies. It's a law, they say it enough times and it'll become true in their own little small noggins. The sad thing is, there is probably nothing we can do to change their way of thinking. And the person who wrote back to you is right ----change "YOU". But how? We can change our thinking. I know I tried, but I go back to the same obsessive thought patterns over and over and over - asking myself questions - asking God questions: WHY?
And yes, wishing them well is always the best thing to do...but damn, isn't it hard sometimes? All the praying and "wishing them well" really didn't do anything for my past relationship, yet I do believe in God's will, things are done accordingly. Maybe we would have been worse off if he or she decided to think differently and do it 'our way' ---which is what it boils down to sometimes.
Boy, we seem to have the same mindset lately. Thank you for sharing this - it has helped me today - MORE than you know.
Love to you!
You'd never lose me as a reader -ever.
This is sound advice and a wonderfully written response. I'm glad it came to you finally and there's a lot here to work with. I know this matter and hope this helps in giving you peace.
The other people in our lives can wilfully misunderstand us at times ... that is the space that they are in and for whatever reason, they choose a path that moves them away from you. It is not your fault. I agree with the words in the response to wish them well and walk away. I'd add to not accept others hang-ups into your emotional makeup. We only partly see at any particular time.
They say that part of us lays hidden from ourselves. Others see it readily.
But to what point do people actually see you, as opposed to submitting to their own prejudices? In other words, how does one know if one is really doing the right thing? If one prays, perhaps this is a better query than the usual petition from whatever Almighty Force for necessities and luxuries.
But when no guidance is forthcoming (at least in the present) the only thing one can do is check his/her motives at every opportunity and proceed with intuition and love (oftentimes induction and logic work too).
That you're spiritual comes as no surprise, to me. I've witnessed some of your spiritual journey through this blog, elsewhere on the net, and in the meatspace time we've spent together. If you thought this would have lost me, the fact is you would have lost me years ago.
You are very unique, the advice is good, it did not come through a channel. Well maybe the cable.
too long alert! Delete and start over.
And so I did....
There is no "truth" because it is subjective. Even scientific "truth" is suspect because it is only the truth for the moment. (bumblebees can't fly?! Well someone should have told them, eh?)
So, to change someones viewpoint to your viewpoint isn't really a viable goal.
Not without living your entire life from inside you...and you're the only one who has done that.
(it may not be valuable info, but it's a lot shorter than the first stuff I wrote)
the divine within this one salutes the divine within you
thank you for sharing.
i wonder:
how many of those you lost to your statement that higher beings can communicate with us have animals? and of those how many talk to their animals and are so totally convinced that those animals understand what they are saying to it? some peoples children...
how much do ascended masters have to pay for their internets? btw i am aware of all internet traditions ;)
as seems to be the case with requests made of Universe, in my experience anyway, there does seem to be a greater or lesser lagtime between the supplication and the response. if the request is remembered the response makes more or less immediate sense. if the request is made long enough ago to have been forgotten the response either brings puzzlement or the feeling of serendipity, or maybe even exasperation at now having to figure what the hell this means...
i had a moment of mental hiccups when i read this: "...referring to those who choose to see one thing and you are, for instance displaying another..." iam of the opinion that choice of level of perception and capability to discern with accuracy (truth) another's mental and/or psychic state is a rather highly developed level of consciousness (or savant like empathy), that had these people possessed such right view (samma ditthi) then choice (right action?) would have given a different outcome to the interaction. choice tends to be exercised from ones basic state on that which is known, reaction tends to occur when novelty is an accompaniment.
do you often elicit such strong dramatic reactions in others? has this increased the farther along you've gone on your journey? have your associations changed for more harmoniousness? you seem like a quick study....
The advice, no matter the source, is better than running through the streets in sack cloth, continuing to whip yourself over things you never had control over in the first place.
Welcome back buddy.
As long as there is desire for a solution, problems will continue to arise.
Wow! I get busy and I wake up to all these great comments! Where do I begin?
Twisted Branch: You remind me of much I have read in the Yoga Sutras (your comment I mean). I left you a comment on your last post.
Walking Man: Getting there. Funny--we were talking about the construction of hair shirts in my yoga class--dog, those things really hurt! What a way to get right with God!
Ricardo: You have been a good friend to me and I won't forget.
White Mist: I think your distinction is apt. Sometimes old friends come back in our lives after a bad rupture because we both had to take learning paths--that happened to me recently and it brought me great joy. I really like what you wrote and plan to think about it.
Deb: Girl, I get you. I'm no saint: I harbored a lot of rage with my dismay when this happened. But what can you do? It's a process. You give it to God and keep taking it back because your emotions just aren't done with it; you feel hurt and possibly violated; maybe you want to kick some ass. This is how we are.I'm no saint--just a Chicago girl trying to find some inner peace. IMHO, it's best to dump the "shoulds", a word I am beginning to hate, and think about what is. So you are hurt and pissed off. That is real. How do you stop? Listen to that voice inside--the voice that speaks good things, not self-incriminating garbage. Listen to the voice that tells you to trust in yourself; you are doing your best. Forgive yourself--it's hard, I know. God will not hold it against you that you need time to heal. He knows what he created when he made us humans!
Boneman: I love what you wrote. Thanks! And you know you can write as long as you want on my page!
Punch: I've been told I was unique. Sometimes that uniqueness is a pain in the ass! Well, I don't have cable, so I know it didn't channel through there!
DD: I did consider that. But it still blew me away.
Aggie: You have a good heart. And reading your comment helped him--it was comforting.
X-Dell: Wow. For some reason, I feel speechless as I read what you wrote. I do miss our meatspace times!
A Ball of Light: Your comment inspired a lot of thought in me. What I was dealing with in aryuvedic terms was a pitta derangement--from myself, from others. And it made me unable to discern correcting, it kept me from the right mind. Even my teacher noticed how I held my head during this bad time and suggested that he was seeing a pitta imbalance. It was frightening. Gosh, your comment made me think. I will have to give it more thought. As for creating dramatic reactions in others, yes, unfortunately I seem to do that. It happened to me just the other day when I was crossing the street with my son. My husband says I draw fire.
Des: Ask. The answer will come when you need to hear it.
Middle Ditch: I'm just mad at myself for chickening out of the GG. I was going through some weird stuff at the time and everything was just scaring me. Gosh, it's good to see you!
Susan,
Yes, as it was said... some relationships just arent in your best interest but...
I feel our relationship...you & me, is rock solid, nurturing, and still growing into bigger ann better things.
Use your love as a barometer to measure me & stuff, and I will measure you too:)
luv ya Susan buddy!
drawing fire is an excellent phrase. Mr Virgin is an astute individual.
the activity level that you have experienced and described in your posts over the last 6 or so months indicates to me that a massive psychic level logjam has been un-jammed somehow or is in process of unjamming.
every time that has happened to me in the past results in a flurry of seemingly unconnected pyschic-nature hits that have the effect of demonstrating that indeed an issue has shifted and allowed all the detritus that had been blocked to spew out. kinda like an emetic for the psyche. i have found that when that occurs there is also a broadcasting of energies that is concurrent with this unblockage that can affect those with whom i interact depending on their sensitivities. the more sensitive (psychically) someone is the more my unblockage will evoke strong reactions. at least to a point. i have had those who, preceeding my attainment of a level which they have already attained, chuckled at my histrionics and confusion and told me to be patient with myself, that this is a stage of development that when reached gives everyone a hard time. that old 'I' takes a long time to die...
it also sounds to me that you are transferring from functioning in and identification with the third kosha, Manomaya (Mental or psycho-emotional Sheath), to functioning in and identification with the fourth kosha, Vijnyanamaya (Intellectual Sheath).
while reading about the four noble truths last nite writing my previous comment i came up with a four not-so-noble truths bumper sticker that a chicago girl might appreciate:
shit happens
shit keeps happening cause you want shit
quit wanting shit and shit will stop happening
fold everything right nobly eight times
Deb - isn't "wishing them well" very similar to forgiveness? and if so isn't it in order for you to grow and develop rather than for a relationship that has provided what it can towards that growth to persist solely for the reason of familiarity with known qualities?
Namaste
Just wanted to say hello!
You haven't lost me at all! I am right with you!
The answer from the spirit guide reminds me of a quote I heard somewhere (and will kindly jumble for everyone here):
Something like, "true love is the social disarmament of the soul, allowing you to react naturally about how you feel toward the other without having to protect your ego from attack"
Good advice but not divine intervention...
Definitely not divine intervention.. but I found some personal solace in reading your post this evening. I was in a terrible relationship with someone who had two different personalities(probably schizo-affective/narcissistic or borderline personality disorder); one on his blog and one off his blog. He blamed me for everything at all times and manipulated my motives to fit how he perceived the situation. He dumped me because I was not on his shopping list of requirements in a woman. My hair colour was wrong, my legs were shaped not to his approval, I couldn't learn an entire language by listening to one song, and I could go on for hours. So I set out to systematically fix everything, dying my hair, restricting my nutrition to shrink my legs, burying my nose in a language textbook to learn the grammer of another language...but still everything was wrong about me. When he dumped me he threw temper tantrum after temper tantrum since I maintained contact with our common friends and he accused me of chasing after him. I didn't call him once and he continued to berate me by phone while I was at work... it broke me down entirely because I couldn't figure out how anyone could so completely misinterpret me. I fell to pieces and everytime i would collect myself, I would hear of a new way that he would try to batter me down, like by spreading nasty rumours through a co-worker with whom I'm friends. Finally I realized that to find peace in my heart I needed to shut him out completely and my attachment to his approval. Because I can't change his perceptions or ask for closure from him but I can control my own actions and thoughts and if this is so, and if I feel that I'm living a moral life where I'm contributing fully each day, then I can allow myself that peace. Your post starts with a bit of a far out statement but thank you....It was balm for me tonight.
Oh come on, you believe in that stuff :)
(Kidding!)
That response you got makes a lot of sense. In the '70s and early '80s I read a lot of books by Jane Roberts. (She died in 1984.) Allegedly, all of her material came to her through an "entity" she was channeling. In any case, her books made complete sense to me, and her writings have had a strong influence on my beliefs ever since.
The reply that you got was nice, it is simple and comforting and applies to all of us in some way.
Perhaps you could share the address of that website sometime.
Back to lurk mode.....
Shawna: I get you. I get you. Oh, boy, do I get you. Been there. God, I understand. Better comment soon. I just went back to work and I'm a little scattered.
ER: Good to see you. I'll be by your blog and leave it there.
Better response soon--I just have to readjust to my schedule. Good comments, guys. Thanks.
Our Higher Self is full of lots of Wisdom... and sometimes we can't hear it, accept within a certain mode...
EotR I agree with the person who said youd never lose me as a reader! I really appreciate your honest articles and believe in many of the same things you do-I just wish they would happen to me more often! I wish I had a clue as to why these past few years have been so fucking difficult-but I dont-as always wishing you the best from Arizona!
Shimmerings: Bless you. I knew you would get this!
Devin: Trust me--you don't want some of the things that happen to me! I think they happen to everyone; we just pick a time in our life when we can notice; I didn't notice anything for most of my life.
Emerging: How are you, friend? So you get this too!
Tom: I've heard of Jane Roberts but never read her. I have read a few books that were dictated by channels--a friend of mine is very big on The Disappearance of the Universe, which I own, but haven't read.
A Ball of Light: I think it has to do with vibrations. If we are more psychically sensitive and we become aware of that sensitivity, we move into a different vibrational energy. Who knows what our aura is beaming out to others--what their "jiva" is quickening to and what their ego is fighting against. I really got what you said and I want to think about it some more as I think it applies here.
GW: Did I reply to you? I thought your comment a few posts ago was really sweet--when I was sick and not blogging--thanks for that.
Virgin... it indeed is a good one! And my belief: divine manifests in zillion many ways!
And, since it IS divine... it would know all the english or hebrew or baby-gurgle versions of communicating! :)
It doesn't matter whether or not the person was legitimately 'channelling' or not, it was still good advice. I am going through the same thing myself.
I am someone who has moved lots of times and each time I did, I lost contact with people who I used to know. It wasn't so easy to keep in touch before computers. I've tried to re-contact one of them and she won't respond to me and it's really got me down.
I'm trying to move past it but I just wanted to talk to her so bad.
or maybe as we release the blockages inhibiting and coloring the freer flow of energies the higher the wavelength at which the resultant, more purified, receiver operates and the more comprehensively and efficiently that receiver functions.
as for what is broadcast? mmmm ... everything? all those little thoughts that burble into consciousness that are beautiful, sad, repellant, funny, selfish, abhorrent, fearful, brave, lustful, petulant or blissful leave tracks on our face and heart and soul and actions. we are fortunate that so few can read us like the books we are. we all muddle thru half-blind and nearly deaf to the cacophony of this incredibly rich and dense energy ocean wherein we swim and exist...
the lesson i've had to learn and relearn and relearn is that what brings the strongest reaction within me is that which i mirror in that to which iam reacting. if i have no trace within my psyche of a particular emotion or tendency there will be nothing to resonate with and react to when that quality presents itself to me.
Namaste
I am still with you my Dear. I am just busy or Lazy,well maybe a little of both. I loved your last post by the way. I am off for four days now so I will write more later on Thursday.
Chris: It's all good. I know we are buds and pals.
A Ball of Light: Exactly! My yoga teacher has said the same. Wow.
Neers! Girl, it is GREAT to see you. I will start following your blog!
BBE: I hear you. For my very brief tenure on Facebook, I was able to reconnect with a bunch of pals from Chicago--we even started calling each other and I was making plans to visit. That was the good part of Facebook along with the chance to do more political activism. But it is hard when we want to stay friends with those who don't want us--for whatever reasons. It hurts a lot. I won't tell you how to feel because I imagine you get plenty of that.
Busy,busy,busy . We have tounge and groove pine going up in a little more than half the house.
Hot as hell outside and the garage door wide open,so much for the AC. I stiltt read all your blogs,just not writing much. Take care,catch you later my dear.
THE SEARCH FOR MEANING
We tend to admire simplicity. In the arts you have achieved a wisdom of sorts when out of seemingly banal frugality and laconic economy of means a grandstanding monument to the everyday is formed not in the work before us but in the minds of observers.
Sen painting in Japan is the depiction of the inner landscapes of the mind. In turn they trigger in the observer recollections of their own inner landscapes. Velasquez and other western greats achieved this in their mature work. It is that floating, unpalpable mist, the mysterious fog that descends and lifts and offers a vision of the idea. The possibility of deeming to concrete the passing puff of insight if we allow it to be so.
Are we not surrounded by the godly? Do we really think beyond death there is more to come?
The search for transcendence is the here and the now. A pebble can open a vast universe of self knowledge as well as faraway supernovas. One and the other affirm the same.
Here and now is the opportunity of transcendental affirmation of the being. One atom is the universe. All atoms are paradise, if we allow the insinuating fog discover the inner lanscapes of our making and rejoice in their persuasion.
Oops, forgot to paste this:
CHILD:
ichijō tsunde wa chichi no tame
There, I stacked one, that's for father
nijō tsunde wa haha no tame
There, I stacked two, that's for mother
nishi wo muite wa chichi koishi
I look to the west, and it's father I miss
higashi wo muite wa haha koishi
I look to the east, and it's mother I miss
koishi koishi to naku koe ga
"I miss you, I miss you" cries the voice,
midori no namida no tae mo nashi
and the green young tears, ne'er to cease.
Priest Kuya n' stuff
Excellent post. As I observed in my last blog post, After years of seeking Truth, I have come to decide that there is:
My Truth, which may or may not be the same as your Truth
Your Truth, which may or may not be the same as my Truth
Others' Truth, which may or may not be the same as your Truth or my Truth
The Truth (sometimes called God’s Truth) which may or may not be the same as your Truth, others' Truth, or my Truth.
What is most important, I believe, is that I accept my Truth as mine and allow you to accept your Truth as yours. It is when folks try deny other their vision of Truth that oppression and wars begin.
Blessings, my dear friend!
Enemy, is there a way you can force St. Nick to rant more often on anything and everything, since you are on autopilot and he is no slouch on the deeply-felt personal philosophy department.
Found this by Tina Brown~Obama's Other Wife (guess who)
"Use your love; you know what to do." I found a good bit of comfort in that statement.
I absolutely believe the living and the dead co-exist with each other, but on different planes, and sometimes we walk in a space where we can hear them and they can hear us. There are billions upon billions of stars in the sky, sometimes we see them, sometimes we don't. Sometimes we simply have to be standing in the right place at the right moment to witness a rainbow, or a bluebird, or a brilliant sunset- and I think the same is true of loved ones we've lost- there are moments when we connect again- despite the odds.
The card I found, did I tell you it was the day after his birthday? I had completely forgotten the date, but later- I realized it when I saw it on my blog. The incident just made me all the more certain of a "communication", and that comforted me as well.
Thank you for checking in on me. I feel like my life is taking a turn in the right direction and I don't want to screw it up. I want to "use my love...and I think I know what to do with it"
Hugs to you friend~ my best to you as always <3
I've just gotten around to read your response back...
Thank you. It's as if you know me through and through. {{hugs}} No other words other than, thank you.
Well,I all I can give you is the love of a friend.Sorry,I haven't been on, but I've duking it out here in the real world while the cyber one sat for awhile.Hard to write about anything if you don't live.Some men have tatoos,I have scars.You are always onmy heart and in my prayers.You can get the divine advice if you search for truth.i think you know where to look.I'm always here to talk sweetie.
This is an excellent post thank u for sharing this post like this show soul of a blogger
I left a comment on here through my iPhone idk why it didn't post but I said that this is a great and touching post that really show who you are cause you show us where you are vulnerable it takes courage to do that
The reply you got is absolutely spot on. Your truth is your truth only and there is a version for everyone.
Till you view happenings like am observer instead of a participant, it is pretty difficult to see the larger picture.
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